Why This Photo Demands a Response From Men

It’s over guys. The time to sit on the sidelines is well past.

As men, we are obligated to condemn coy, smirking, “playful” threats like this against women, AOC or otherwise.

Behind these “jokes” lies real violence.

Like locker room talk, this kind of “joking” doesn’t mean all the boys or men who act in this way are violent abusers of women, but it most certainly creates a culture in which violent abusers hide and operate freely. Moreover, it reinforces a dominant culture of masculinity in which women are viewed as less.

The Centers for Disease Control estimates that one in five women will be a rape survivor, yet, when we raise the alarm about this clear evidence of an abusive culture of manhood, we’re being told “Hey, boys will be boys.”

Understand, boys will be boys means we are expected to accept a culture of masculinity that is defined by the most aggressive and abusive among us, as a culture of bias and inequality against women, people of color, and so many others.

When we see a photo like this, we’re told, “Lighten up, it’s youthful mistakes. We all made mistakes when we were young.”

No.

As men, we change this poisonous masculine narrative NOW by calling out abuse like this whenever we see it. How else will young men understand their responsibilities to each and every other human being? How otherwise will they break the man box culture cycle of abuse in their own lives?

When we excuse abusive behaviors like this with pat phrases like boys will be boys, we are utterly failing our sons, and all the women in their lives, in every possible way.

Enough.

Originally published on Medium

Mark Greene is the author of The Little #Metoo Book for Men. Available worldwide at Amazon.

What’s your take? Comment below or write a response and submit to us your own point of view or reaction here, which links to our submissions portal.

◊♦◊

Sign up for our Writing Prompts email to receive writing inspiration in your inbox twice per week.


If you believe in the work we are doing here at The Good Men Project, please join us as a Premium Member, today.

All Premium Members get to view The Good Men Project with NO ADS.

A $50 annual membership gives you an all-access pass. You can be a part of every call, group, class, and community.
A $25 annual membership gives you access to one class, one Social Interest group, and our online communities.
A $12 annual membership gives you access to our Friday calls with the publisher, our online community.

Register New Account

Need more info? A complete list of benefits is here.


◊♦◊

Get the best stories from The Good Men Project delivered straight to your inbox, here.

Image via Twitter