Stop the Bullying so our teens can focus on what is important. Today’s Teen Tip comes from Alison G. Bailey, an author of the new book Stop!
I’m old. Plain and simple. I grew up during a time where you came home from school, had a snack, did your homework, and then played outside until dinner was ready. My parents, sister, and I sat at the table, ate together, and talked about our day.
There were only three TV channels to watch back then and they signed off each day around midnight, leaving nothing but dead air until 6 a.m. the next morning. The TV and newspaper were our only portals to the vast world that surrounded us. There was no such thing as 24 hour anything—news, stores, information. The only screens we ever sat in front of belonged to the TV and movies. We knew our neighbors, were taught to respect our elders, and treat others with decency.
Now, don’t get me wrong. The world I grew up in was far from idyllic. That type of world doesn’t exist in the past, present, or future. But it was a time of stronger boundaries. I’m not talking about boundaries that needed to put pushed and done away with like discrimination. I’m referring to simple decency and manners.
Bullies have existed since the Dark Ages. In the mildest form, they’d punch you, push you down, laugh and call you names. With technology advancing at such a rapid pace everything has been amped up.
We are exposed to and bombarded with the good and bad this world has to offer. And it’s all right there at the tip of our fingers. On the internet you can be whatever and whomever you want to be. Bullies have embraced the cyber world. The round-the-clock access and anonymity has fed into their hate and anger, bringing their game to a whole new level.
My latest book, Stop!, deals with a few important topics, one of which is bullying, cyber and physical. Long gone are the days when a bully would just laugh as you walked by. In fact, I think the word “bully” is too watered down a term to use for what’s happening to our teens today.
The harassment that takes place every day in schools and on the internet is mind-blowing to me. Ugly and hateful words typed and sent out into the cyber world never go away. You can’t unclick the hate once it’s been unleashed.
A lot of focus is put on the “bully’s” specific target and rightfully so. But what about the collateral damage?
Let’s say the targeted person reads the post, tweet, or text. It hurts them, but they have a strong support system. They gain strength from their family and their friends. They realize the hate being thrown toward them has more to do with the bully’s low self-esteem than anything else.
What about the unintended target? The person who randomly comes across that same hateful post? Maybe he’s been targeted over and over again by other bullies because of the color of his skin, the way he acts, thinks, or lives his life. He might not have a strong support system. He might feel completely isolated and hopeless. That random post might be his tipping point in deciding his world is so dark that it’s not worth sticking around for any longer.
Posts, tweets, texts, anything transmitted over the internet has a domino effect. So while the “bully’s” aim is pointed at one victim, in reality his hate filled words are mowing down a generation of young people. And for what?
Aim those hateful words at yourself and feel their effect before hitting Send. Don’t be the one who tips the first domino. Stop the bullying.
Synopsis of the book Stop!
Every life has a different path full of sharp turns, smooth curves, and steep drop offs.
Hollis Murphy has a plan—college, career, boyfriend, love, marriage, family. A predictable, normal life. She’s on track until an outside force causes her to crash and burn. They call it an accident, because that’s the only word they know to explain what happens to her. It helps everyone move on with their lives, except for Hollis. She holds on to the belief that she’s been targeted for a reason.
Risher Stevenson is intelligent, caring, sweet, and the hottest boy Hollis has ever laid eyes on. He fits perfectly into her original plan for a normal life. Everyone loves him.
Benton Daniels is intelligent, caring, sweet, and the bravest boy Hollis has ever met. He doesn’t fit into her life but gives it purpose and makes it extraordinary. Everyone hates him.
One is bullied. One is tormented. All are judged. How will it STOP?
How to get the book:
Pick up your copy of Stop! on Amazon or other fine retailers.
Meet the author:
Alison was born and raised in Charleston, SC. She attended Winthrop University and graduated with a major in Theater. While at school Alison began writing one-act plays, which she later produced. Her debut novel, Present Perfect, landed on Amazon’s Best Seller List and appeared on many “Best Reads of 2013” Book Blogs. The novel won Best Book at the 2014 Indie Romance Convention Awards. Her second novel, Past Imperfect, was published in February of 2014 and appeared on several best books of 2014 lists as well. Presently Perfect, the third and final book in The “Perfect” series was released in Dec 2014 to rave reviews. In March 2015 all the love, swoon, heat, and angst were combined into the Perfect Series Box Set.