The next time a school holiday has you feeling guilty that you’re not a Pinterest mom, remember the message of an attorney mother on LinkedIn.
Claire E. Parsons is a partner and owner of a full-service law firm in Kentucky. On the networking site, she explained how she and a working-mom pal had different approaches to Valentine’s Day school celebrations for their daughters.
Her “accomplished” friend made macarons at home, and even gave some to Claire as a birthday present.
Claire gave her kids treats too, but purchased them at the grocery store.
“It might have been easy to turn this gift into mom guilt and comparison,” she wrote. “You see, my friend and her spouse work and she’s got two young girls too. Did I make something homemade for my daughters’ Valentine’s? No way.”
The attorney revealed that she enlisted the help of the rest of her whole family and found ways to save time. “My oldest wrote and prepared her own Valentines. My husband helped write out the cards for the youngest. And her Valentine box that I had been encouraged to make and decorate? I used an old Valentine’s Day bag and wrote her name on it. I actually wondered why I had not done this sooner since it was such an obvious fix,” she wrote.
Rather than feel bad that she couldn’t bake her own treats like her pal did, Claire had a refreshing perspective. “Is my friend a better baker? Absolutely. She enjoys it and does it to relax. But the comparisons should end there. We’re both great moms, who figured out this year’s Valentine’s in different ways.”
She ended her post supporting both types of moms—the ones like her pal, and the ones like herself. “If you are a hashtag #workingparent who didn’t have homemade treats for your kid’s Valentine’s today, I’m with you. And if you did, I’m with you too. hashtag#workingmoms hashtag#womenlawyers,” she wrote.
Keeping up with school holidays—and the treats, cards and costumes involved—can be overwhelming for any working parent. But as Claire’s post shows, we all have our own ways of showing our children we care, and they’re all valid.