How Important Is Frequent Sex Anyway?

This post is sponsored by the #RightToDesire campaign.

As you might remember, I’ve been working with the #RightToDesire campaign since the beginning of this year, and I was supposed to wrap up my series of posts this summer, but the move to France… pushed things a bit. : ) So here it is the end of October, and this is my last post of this campaign. I was thinking about what I wanted to discuss and I remembered a listicle someone share with me on Twitter (when we were discussing irresponsible ejaculations). It’s titled 10 Surprising Health Benefits of Sex.

It’s not a new article, and at first when I saw the title, I was pretty sure nothing on the list was going to surprise me, because the benefits of sex are very apparent to me. Outside of being a relationship builder, I’ve found sex is one of my best and most reliable tools for stress-relief, focus, and improving a bad mood.

But I realize not every one feels the same way. For many people, sex — even with someone they love — is a burden or duty at best, and not part of their self-care arsenal at all.

The article lists 10 reasons, but for me, these four benefits are things I value most on the list:

-Helps Keep Your Immune System Humming
-Counts as Exercise (this is a big plus for me – hah!)
-Lessens Pain
-Improves Sleep (I find this to be very true!)

Something else not on their list: Sex makes me feel more attractive and more confident.

If you’re feeling up sharing, I’d love to hear how you think about sex. Do you see it as a beneficial health tool in your life? Is it mostly a relationship builder for you? Or perhaps your favorite (or only) exercise? Or is it a negative thing in your life — something to be avoided?

As we’ve discussed before, if you’ve lost your sexual desire — and that’s something that bothers you — please know three things:

1- You’re not alone, 80 million women experience low sexual desire, and 71% of those women feel hopeless about it. It’s possible you’re dealing with HSDD ,which stands for Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder. It is the most common form of sexual dysfunction in women — the key components are low sexual desire and related distress about the low sexual desire.

2- You can talk to your doctor if you’d like to get some advice (and here’s an interview I did with a doctor about HSDD that can give you more info in the meantime).

3- You are totally entitled to desire and enjoy sex if that’s something that you want. (And of course, if you have no sexual desire, and that doesn’t bother you, that’s fine too!)

Back to the discussion. Is frequent sex something that’s important to you? (I’ll let you decide what “frequent” means for you.) If sex disappeared from your life would you miss it? Is there are particular benefit of sex that you appreciate most? I’d love to discuss this with you.

P.S. — On the difficulties of doing healthy sex research in America, I found this article from Wired pretty fascinating — it’s titled The Strange Saga of the Butt Plus Turned Research Device.